Last night Bob and I went through songs for our couple video and wedding video. That's right, we've hired a videographer. My, my don't we sound like we've made it in the world. 10 years ago, videography was a rarity. Now it's a must. When we went through our budget for the wedding (ha! budget!) there were many things I didn't care about, but we both felt like if we were going to invest money, then the memory keepsakes were where it was at, i.e. pictures and video.
At one point in time, we contemplated just heading to Vegas. Darn sentimentality, kids being part of the ceremony, friends and family being there put the kabosh on that plan. I'm pretty sure wedding planning has gotten 10x more complicated (and expensive for that matter) than it was 10 years ago when I got married. Planning the last time around just seemed....simple.
Maybe that's because my mom did most of it. Hmm.
Now, with each additional detail, despite our declaration to everyone that "this is our second wedding, we are keeping it simple" I continually find myself telling Bob, "Man, I'm too old for this!" It's just odd to be doing it not necessarily at this age, but...again. Most things I don't care about. No, I don't care what color the napkins are. Other details have been in my mind since the day we were engaged. I wrote out a list the other day of things that still need to be done and it was over 4 pages long. Let me repeat that. FOUR pages long. First of all, I'm not a list person because, well, it just overwhelms me. But 4+ pages (I guarantee you there are about 3 more pages of things I haven't thought about) is just too much to keep in a brain that is already overflowing. That list has since been neatly tucked (or crammed in the deepest, darkest corner - take your pick) in my purse. Outta sight, outta mind, was what I was going for. Ha!
I don't know what I was thinking one day when I gave Bob the instructions that he just needs to show up (and write his vows of course. I'm sure he would jump at the chance if I wrote them for him but well, that's just awkward. But MAN, they would be good). Luckily, my man is pretty easy going and just lets me fly with whatever's in my head at the time. We tend to have the same taste in just about everything, too, so I think he trusts me. And he's a guy. Let's face it.
Wedding date - CHECK
Wedding dress - CHECK
Venue - CHECK
Videographer hired - CHECK
Photographer hired - CHECK
Suits for the boys and dress for Natalia - CHECK
My vows written - CHECK
Flowers for bouquet purchased - CHECK
Plan for hair and makeup and location - CHECK
I will spare you the TO DO list. It may depress you. Or make you glad you're already married. Or never got married. Or will never, ever get married again. Just pray your kids never want to get married. Or, just start saving now and give them a big, fat check. That's my plan. Hmm. Suddenly that Vegas plan is sounding appealing again.
Lest you think I'm ungrateful for this chapter of my life, rest assured, I am so happy, so thrilled, so excited to marry this amazing man. All the details will come together and it will be the wedding I have been envisioning. I may need to invest in some hair dye for the additional gray hairs and Botox for the furrow in my brow but man, will it make me look that much more amazing on my wedding day! Just don't ask me to show emotion. That forehead ain't going anywhere.
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